I recently read an article from Upworthy by Mark Manson titled “How I found my life’s passion by asking myself these ridiculous questions.” The title worked its magic, as clickbait does. It’s a fun, easy read. As someone who is still actively looking for my purpose in this world, I thought I would try to answer Manson’s questions to see if my answers might get me any closer to finding out.
Question #1: What’s your favorite flavor of shit sandwich, and does it come with an olive? (i.e. What struggle or sacrifice are you willing to tolerate? What unpleasant experiences are you able to handle?)
This is a really tough question for me to answer. I’m not a patient person and I have zero tolerance for people who are rude, condescending, or slow. I’m not super tolerant of constant unpredictability. Some is fine, but not all the time.
I can handle some travel and working on the occasional weekend. I’d tolerate a maximum one hour commute (each way). I’d tolerate an office with no windows. I can tolerate working with people who are older than me, but I don’t prefer it. I can tolerate feedback and criticism (when it’s polite and useful). I can tolerate working with people who are tech-challenged but willing to learn how to use tech independently. I can tolerate training people. I can tolerate working outside. I can tolerate fairly early morning hours.
Question #2: What is true about you today that would make your 8-year-old self cry?
Another hard question! I can barely remember my eight-year-old self. I think she would cry if she knew I had a boring desk job with zero fun perks and zero physical activity. At one point I wanted to be a police officer. At another point I wanted to be an actress. Two very different things, both challenging in their own ways and exciting. I don’t have the education or experience to do either of these things now. I certainly don’t want to be a police officer anymore.
Question #3: What makes you forget to eat and poop?
So. Many. Things! Caring for Archer will do that. All the time. If I’m watching a great episode of my favourite show or a good movie. Online shopping. A good phone conversation. Outdoor activities (walking, swimming, fishing, boating, etc.). If I’m really enjoying the weather outside and I’m staying physically active, I’m not thinking about going to the bathroom or eating. Coding. If I’m really wrapped up in coding my website I will drown out the world around me for HOURS. If I run into an issue while coding, I will not stop until I fix it. Not for anything. This is why I haven’t touched my website since having Archie.
Question #4: How can you better embarrass yourself?
Let me count the ways. I could start a podcast no one would listen to. I could start a non-profit that no one would donate to. I could write a book that no one would read. I could become a communications consultant and work for myself, but then never get any client interest. I could put time and money into becoming a web designer then realize that I don’t like it or that I’m not good at it. There are so many things I would love to try but the fear of failure and wasting not only my time, but other people’s time, is paralyzing.
Question #5: How are you going to save the world?
I want to save the oceans. I want to do something about the devastation being done to coral reefs all over the world. I want to get rid of plastic use and I want to save all of the marine life before it’s too late. Here’s the thing though… I wouldn’t even know where/how to start! I don’t really have the finances to make any sizable contributions to the organizations I would love to support.
Questions #6: If you absolutely had to leave the house all day, every day, where would you want to go and what would you do?
I would want to go outside. I would want to go to the beach, be near the water, be near people. I would walk and talk and get some good exercise. I would want to go swimming, get on a boat and sail somewhere, or paddle a canoe around a quiet lake. I would have coffee with my friends. I would have lunch with Mark. Some of these things I would do alone, others I would bring Archie along 🙂
Question #7: If you knew you were going to die one year from today, what would you do and how would you want to be remembered?
I would spend time with family and friends. I would make as many memories as I could with Mark and Archie; making sure they knew that my life was enriched by their presence in it. I would make peace with my mistakes and revel in my accomplishments. I would write my life’s stories and share them. I would go to Hawaii and swim with the sea turtles. I would cage dive with sharks.
I would want to be remembered as a wonderful mother, wife, sister, daughter, and friend. I would want to be remembered as funny, creative, and passionate. I would want to be remembered as a person who really lived my life to its full potential.
I’m not sure if this exercise helped with my goals, but it was fun to do and gave me a few things to think about.
Anyone want to give me an idea for a podcast series I could host? Kidding! Maybe…